Friends at 40 (part 1)
As we enter our 40s, our friendships begin to look different. We’re less interested in surface-level connections and more focused on relationships that support our growth and align with our values. In my latest blog post, I explore how friendships evolve during this stage of life and why it’s okay to let go of what no longer serves us. For more on navigating the beauty and challenges of friendships at 40, be sure to listen to the full episode of The Good Daughter Society Podcast.
As we get older, friendships can change in ways we didn’t expect.
In our 20s, it feels like we can’t have enough friends. We’re out every weekend, meeting new people, and forming connections easily. But by the time we hit our 30s and 40s, we often find ourselves reevaluating what friendship really means—and who we want to spend our precious time with.
In this episode of The Good Daughter Society Podcast, I talk about the evolution of friendships as we get older, especially in our 40s, and the challenges that come with it. It’s not just about having friends; it’s about having the right friends.
At this stage in life, we start to realize that we don’t have the energy for superficial relationships or toxic dynamics. We crave real connection, deep conversations, and friends who truly see us—not the version we once were, but the version we are now.
But here's the thing: building those kinds of friendships takes time, intention, and sometimes, a bit of letting go.
In this episode, I share:
How friendships shift as we enter our 40s and why that can feel both freeing and lonely.
The importance of surrounding ourselves with people who align with our values and support our growth.
Why it’s okay to outgrow relationships and how to gracefully let them go without guilt.
The magic that happens when you make room for quality over quantity in your friendships.
Whether you’re in a season of deep connection or navigating the loneliness that can come with this stage of life, I hope this episode reminds you that it’s okay to be picky about who you let in.
Quality friendships take effort, but they’re worth it.
✨ Are you navigating the evolution of friendship at 40?
Listen to this episode of The Good Daughter Society Podcast:
🎧 Friends at 40
If you’ve been questioning your circle or wondering how to attract more meaningful connections, this conversation will help you reflect on what true friendship really looks like in your 40s.
It’s time to surround yourself with people who truly lift you up.
XO, LB
I Didn’t Know It Was ADHD: A Mother’s Story of Shame, Masking, and Discovery
It all begiADHD can show up in unexpected ways, often leaving us feeling lost, misunderstood, or even ashamed. In my latest blog post, I dive into my personal journey of discovering ADHD later in life, and how it reshaped my understanding of myself. If you’ve ever struggled with focus, overwhelm, or feeling like you’re "too much," this post will resonate with you. For more on how ADHD has shaped my life and how embracing it can be a path to healing, listen to the full episode of The Good Daughter Society Podcast.ns with an idea.
For most of my life, I thought I was just too sensitive. Too emotional. Too much.
I learned early on that if I wanted to be loved, accepted, or even just tolerated, I needed to be easy. I needed to keep it together. So I did. I became the good girl, the high-achiever, the one who could juggle a million things at once. And for a while, it worked—on the outside.
But inside, I was crumbling.
The mental load of motherhood, the overwhelm of everyday life, the guilt for not doing it all “right”—it was all building up. And I thought it was just me. That I was broken. That I needed to try harder, be better, get it together.
It wasn’t until I stumbled into an article about women and ADHD that something clicked. It wasn’t the stereotypical picture I had in my head—bouncing-off-the-walls hyperactivity in little boys. No, this was something else. Something quieter. Something that had been hiding in plain sight my whole life.
Reading that article felt like someone had been watching me for decades and finally handed me a mirror.
I cried.
Because suddenly, there was a name for the shame I had carried for years. For the way I’d forget simple things, lose track of time, get distracted mid-sentence, or feel like my brain was going a million miles an hour while the world expected calm and order from me.
It was ADHD. And I had it.
The diagnosis didn’t fix everything overnight, but it cracked open the door to self-compassion. It gave me language for what I had been masking for so long. It helped me understand why motherhood felt especially hard, why I often felt like I was drowning in tasks others seemed to handle with ease, and why I had been so good at pretending everything was fine—until I couldn’t anymore.
I’ve learned to stop pushing through in silence and start speaking up. To stop blaming myself and start getting curious about what I need. And more than anything, I’ve learned that I am not alone.
There are so many of us—women, mothers, daughters—who spent years thinking we were just lazy, scattered, or emotionally unstable. And we weren’t. We were doing our best with a brain that was wired differently, in a world that didn’t see us.
If this resonates with you, I want you to know: you’re not broken. You’re not too much. You don’t have to carry the shame anymore. There’s another way.
And it begins with finally seeing yourself clearly—for the first time.
✨ Want to hear the full story?
Listen to this powerful episode of The Good Daughter Society Podcast:
🎧 I Didn’t Know It Was ADHD
I open up about the moment everything clicked, the years of silent shame, and what it’s like to finally understand your brain—especially as a mother who was always trying to hold it all together.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it just me?” — this one’s for you.
XO, LB